EP 51 – Amanda Lockyer: Navigating Addiction’s Impact on Relationships

In this powerful episode, host Gary Menkes welcomes Amanda Lockyer, a dedicated addiction coach and host of the ‘Addiction Makes Three’ podcast. 

Amanda opens up about her personal journey, beginning with her partner’s battle with addiction and how it led to her transformation into a wellness coach. She candidly discusses the emotional turmoil, societal stigma, and the importance of supportive surroundings in overcoming addiction. Amanda’s unique insights into post-traumatic growth, the concept of ‘rock bottom’, and the power of hope and affirmation provide a fresh perspective on addiction recovery

This episode is a testament to Amanda’s resilience and determination, and her story is an inspiration to anyone affected by addiction. Don’t miss out on this transformational conversation.


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About Our Guest (Amanda Lockyer)

Amanda Lockyer is a dedicated addiction coach and the inspiring host of the “Addiction Makes Three” podcast. Originating from New Zealand, Amanda’s former life as a corporate accountant was deeply impacted by her partner’s struggle with addiction and alcoholism. Her personal journey of coping with the destructive effects of her partner’s addiction led to her own mental, physical, and psychological decline. However, her determination to seek help and understand the intricacies of addiction marked a significant turning point in her life.

Amanda’s experiences have made her a compassionate advocate for those dealing with the fallout of a loved one’s addiction. She understands the emotional turmoil, self-esteem issues, and the complex dynamics of manipulation and gaslighting that often accompany such situations. Today, Amanda uses her experiences to guide others through similar struggles, emphasizing the importance of separating the person from their addiction and the power of supportive surroundings.

Amanda’s journey from the corporate world to wellness coaching is a testament to her resilience and determination. Despite initial struggles, she draws inspiration from her clients’ transformations and the courage they exhibit as they navigate through addiction. She challenges societal stigma and moral judgment associated with addiction, promoting compassion, understanding, and setting boundaries.

Amanda’s work extends beyond her podcast, “Addiction Makes Three“. She also provides insights on her Instagram profile where she continues to share valuable content and resources about addiction and recovery. You can follow her [@addictionmakesthree] (https://www.instagram.com/addictionmakesthree/) for regular updates.

For more in-depth resources, visit Amanda’s website (https://amanda-lockyer.mykajabi.com) where she offers courses and coaching sessions. Her mission is to provide support and guidance to those affected by addiction, shedding light on the lesser-discussed impacts of addiction on family and friends. 


Show Notes

  • [01:17] Gary Menkes interviews Amanda Lockyer, host of the Addiction Makes Three podcast, who discusses her role as an addiction coach focused on helping those dealing with loved ones suffering from addiction, sharing insights on the lesser-discussed impacts of addiction on family and friends. 
  • [02:53] Amanda, a former corporate accountant from New Zealand, shares her personal journey of coping with her partner’s addiction and alcoholism, leading to her own mental, physical, and psychological decline before she realized she needed help and embarked on a mission to find information and training to help others navigating similar struggles. 
  • [08:53] Amanda discusses the slow, insidious nature of her husband’s addiction, the impact of his denial and lies on their relationship, and the rollercoaster of emotions she experienced during his multiple attempts at sobriety. 
  • [13:57] Amanda discusses the emotional turmoil and self-esteem issues faced by individuals dealing with a loved one’s addiction, emphasizing the importance of separating the person from their addiction and the negative impact of manipulation and gaslighting on the victim’s self-perception. 
  • [19:20] Amanda shares her personal journey of seeking help for her struggling husband, only to realize through a professional counseling session that she herself was deeply affected and in need of support, marking a significant turning point in her life
  • [22:26] Amanda discusses her personal struggle with the consuming addiction of a loved one, the impact it had on her own well-being, and the journey she undertook to regain control of her life.
  • [26:58] Amanda discusses the concept of post-traumatic growth, the limitations in helping someone who doesn’t want help.
  • [31:22] Amanda and Gary discuss the importance of supportive surroundings in combating addiction, challenging the concept of ‘rock bottom’, and emphasizing the power of hope and affirmation in inspiring change. 
  • [31:22] Amanda and Gary discuss the importance of supportive surroundings in combating addiction, challenging the concept of ‘rock bottom’, and emphasizing the power of hope and affirmation in inspiring change. 
  • [35:09] Amanda discusses the societal stigma and moral judgment associated with addiction, acknowledging her own past judgments and emphasizing the importance of compassion, understanding, and setting boundaries when dealing with those struggling with addiction. 
  • [39:44] Amanda shares her journey from corporate world to wellness coaching, her initial struggles, the inspiration she draws from her clients’ transformations, and the courage she witnesses as they navigate through addiction.
  • [44:23] Amanda discusses the challenges of helping people who may not realize they need help, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and understanding that addiction does not discriminate.

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About Gary Menkes

Gary Menkes was born and raised in Port Washington, NY and struggled with alcoholism since his early teens which took him to places he never wants to go again and which took a toll on his health, relationships and professional endeavors. However, Gary completely transformed his life when he was given the gift of sobriety on May 13, 2006. Determined to break free from the cycle of self-destruction, he embarked on a remarkable journey of recovery.

Today, Gary is an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous in New York, married to the love of his life and father of two amazing children of which he owes all to his sobriety. Gary is now launching his own podcast, The Begin Again Podcast.